FARGO -- I spent 16 hours browsing, sorting, and disposing her belongings. It was exhausting, educational, impactful and surreal. I finished with sore muscles, a deeper appreciation for her life, and a thought to share with you.
On this Veterans Day, our son is being deployed to Afghanistan. My wife wrote the following thoughts in her journal: As a parent, I dream about my kid’s future. I pray for their future spouse. I pray Brooke won’t have the difficulties I had with infertility. I pray Nate grows into the man God wants him to be. I also process the bad things they may face so we can direct them away from danger.
FARGO — I’ve read two books by Pastor Mark Batterson and own several more. I would highly recommend any of his books. You will enjoy his creative, energetic, action-oriented and engaging writing style. In both of Batterson’s books I’ve read, he shares a helpful formula. Being a huge fan of math, I get excited when I see formulas. But beyond the pure natural joy of formulas, his formula has been increasingly helpful to me and led me to a decision in my 2019 calendar.
Last Sunday, I discussed one of the three attitudes displayed by Samson in the Bible that make strong men weak. When a man sees something that he desires, his emotions kick in and he pursues it regardless of cost. He may lust after a woman, a career advancement, a house or a challenge to conquer.
FARGO — I'm an engineer; wired to observe the realities of this world. For 50 years I've witnessed this reality: Men tend to trail behind women when it comes to spiritual intensity. I've seen many families where mom is active in her faith and local church but dad isn't. It's very rare that dad is active and mom is not. Having worked with teenagers for years, it's common for teens to step away from faith when dad isn't actively engaged.
FARGO — The topic of regrets is not particularly comfortable, but so critical. It's easy to find yourself stuck in an endless cycle of longing and regret. Many people live in this cycle day after day. And it saps our energy and our ability to engage in the opportunities we are currently blessed with. That is the difficult news. The good news is regret does not have to be the finish line. Regret can be the starting line to a closer relationship with God and a healthier future.
Five years ago, I was talking to a friend about our lawn. He is in the lawn care business and he offered me this timeless advice, "There are two ways to have a nice lawn. One way is to remove all the weeds. The other is to grow your grass so thick there is no room for weeds." When he said that a bright and jarring light bulb went off in me. If we want to live a high-impact, lasting-legacy life we must intentionally put God's word, the Bible, into our minds daily so that weeds do not overtake our thinking.
Michael Phelps swam in the 2000 Summer Olympics at the age of 15, making him the youngest male to make an Olympic swim team in 68 years. After swimming in the 2004, 2008 and 2012 Summer Olympics, he held the record for winning the most Olympic medals ever with a total of 22 medals, 18 of them gold! Phelps was, clearly, the greatest swimmer of all-time.
Growing up in North Dakota, I took for granted living in a part of the world where we truly can experience all four seasons. I didn't realize how much I would miss the seasons and the changes associated with them until my wife and I lived five years in Kansas City. There we certainly had summer, but there was not a winter. And without winter you cannot have a spring. But what I truly missed was my favorite season: fall.
FARGO — Karl Pillemer is a gerontologist at Cornell University. In 2011, he and his team interviewed 1,500 adults over the age of 65, asking them what haunts them the most about their life choices. He then wrote a book called "30 Lessons for Living: Tried and True Advice from the Wisest Americans." Here are the biggest regrets of those interviewed: • Not being careful enough when choosing a life partner.